Dear Dr. Darcy,Dr. Darcy's response, after the jump...
My girlfriend and I often engage in consensual BSDM activities: slapping, hitting, choking. You know, the usual. Of course, we use a safe word.
Recently, after a couple of glasses of wine, we enjoyed an especially strenuous session. When we were finished, I remarked to her that I was shocked she didn't use the safe word.
Now, she's claiming that she doesn't remember the evening very well -- and she's charging that I beat her up! So my question is this: Is there a smart way to mix booze and safe words? I mean, sometimes a little wine helps loosen the collar, if you know what I mean, but I can't be responsible if she forgets the word or slurs them and says something ridiculous, like, I don't know, "Ween Cartoons," instead of the agreed-upon phrase. Right?
Rough on Demand
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