I Went to Prison for Vehicular Homicide. Why Can't I Own a Gun?



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Photo courtesy of Peter Beste
  • Photo courtesy of Peter Beste

MY HEART'S IN IT Dear Willie D:

I might sound crazy but I have been in a relationship with a married man for three years. I can't seem to leave him alone. He really makes me happy and I have fallen in love. I try to date other people, but I can't seem to get over him. I always end up back with this man as much as I try to get away. I want your advice on how to really get out of this situation for good.

Can't Let Go:

Call your friend and tell him it's over. Stop calling him. Stop returning his phone calls. Stop emailing him. Stop texting him. Stop liking his Facebook updates. Stop looking at his pictures on Instagram. Stop answering the door whenever he comes to your house. Stop having sex with him. Stop kissing him. Stop thinking about him. Wait a minute. Did you say you're in love? Never mind.


Dear Willie D:

I'm a 17-year-old young man that has no clue as to what I want to do with my life. I only know what I don't want to do, which is become a doctor like my parents. I appreciate the privileges afforded to me by parents with great careers, but I don't like the long hours away from home and family. My parents pretty much missed out on my entire childhood. They have it all set up for me to attend medical school at their alma mater.

I know that it will disappoint them to no end if I decide against their wishes, but I'm determined to make my own way and live the life that I want to live just as they're doing for themselves. But how do I express my sentiments without offending them?

All Set Up:

Parents want their kids to be financially successful but above all they want them to be happy. Happiness -- that's your trump card. Now let me tell you how to play it. Go to your parents and tell them how proud you are of their accomplishments and how much you admire their profession but it's not for you. You don't have to tell them the real reason behind your decision. It might devastate them and cause them to believe that you think they're bad parents. Instead, talk about what it is that you have a passion for.

Your conversation will go over a lot smoother if you had an idea of what you want to do with your life before you speak with them. You can always change your mind later but give them something. However, if you tell them you want to become a male dancer, brace yourself to be disowned. They're doctors, which means they're likely to have conservative values when it comes to a career choice. But all is not lost.

To disown a child because he or she followed a career path other than your own is silly, and in time any parent that does will realize the error of his or her ways and embrace the fact that their child is doing exactly what he or she wants to do with his or her life and is happy. Money pays the bills, but happiness is reason to live.


Not long ago I was at a department store trying on clothes and overheard two girls in the dressing room next to me using the most foul language imaginable. When I walked out I was shocked to see they couldn't have been more than 13 years old. The fact that they were in the presence of an adult had no effect on their choice of words as they looked at me and continued to spew out expletives.

The way young people talk, dress and decorate their bodies with piercings and tattoos is baffling. They can't even attend school without fear of being shot by their classmates. I follow your Facebook postings religiously and you seem to be a staunch supporter of young people and their purpose in society. Unfortunately, I don't share your viewpoint. The youth of today is lost and I don't know what can be done to help them find their way.


I agree with you that great amounts of young people are lost, but I'm optimistic because many young people are respectful, have clear goals and know exactly where they're going in life. While it's important to support the ones who have found their way, we also have to help those who may be lost because they are also the future. The youth didn't just wake up one day and find themselves lost. The generation before them blindly led them and ran off without leaving a life compass.

Not saying it's applicable to you, but I find it odd that people who complain most about the condition of our youth are the ones who are least involved in mentoring, coaching, teaching and supporting them. When someone is lost and you're in the car you don't roll down the window, stick your head out and start screaming to people on the street that the person is lost. You do what you can to help them get on the right path to where they're going.

The youth are drivers of the future; everybody else is riding shotgun. If you're not going to help drive or provide navigation assistance, the least you can do is shut up and not be a distraction.


Dear Willie D:

I was charged, convicted and sent to prison in Texas for vehicular homicide. After serving five years in prison I was released and started the process of rebuilding my life. My sentence included three years' probation, which I completed in two years because I paid off my restitution and adhered to the imposed guidelines of the court. Because of my criminal record, I cannot possess a gun or vote even though I've paid my debt to society.

It's hard enough for a person with a felony to get a job and rent a nice apartment. I understand that I made a mistake, but at what point do I stop being penalized? This seems unconstitutional.

Penalized Offender:

Unfortunately, in America if you are convicted of a felony you will be penalized for the rest of your life. In my opinion, whether you're allowed to reside at a rental property should have no bearing on your criminal record unless you are a killer or sexual predator. Likewise, it shouldn't matter if you have a fraud charge when filling out a job application unless you're applying for a financial position. And yes, when you do the crime and subsequently the time, your full rights and privileges as a citizen should be restored, including the right to bear arms.

People who have never been in the system are quick to say, "You shouldn't have done it" and they're right. But the reality is besides more jail time, what is the incentive for an ex-con to aspire to be a productive citizen if he's never going to have complete citizenship again? If states are going to indefinitely deny certain rights to a convicted felon who has righted his or her wrongs then they need to stop asking them to pay taxes and follow laws.

Taxation without representation is tyranny and not being allowed to own a gun to protect yourself and your family in the most dangerous industrialized country on the planet after you've paid your debt is just wrong. And political.

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